The Chief Bridesmaid - duties, role and responsibilities
Given my blog is called The Chief Bridesmaid, I thought I should probably explain the role of the Chief Bridesmaid and her responsibilities.
What does a Chief Bridesmaid actually do? The role of the Chief Bridesmaid on this blog is to give you expert advice on how to plan your wedding on a budget. By reading the tips on my blog, I want to make wedding debt a thing of the past and enable every Bride to have their perfect wedding day, whatever their wedding budget.
The role of your own Chief Bridesmaid is slightly different. The Chief Bridesmaid, Chief Brides-slave (as my friend Lisa calls it) is traditionally known as the Maid of Honour (if the girl is unmarried) or Matron of Honour (if the girl is married).
Typically, the Chief Bridesmaid is the Bride's elder sister or oldest friend. Her role and importance in the wedding party essentially mirrors that of the best man.
The Chief Bridesmaid's role before the Wedding day
As Chief Bridesmaid, your responsibilities will begin long before the wedding day, you'll be expected to carry out the following duties:
- Organising the Hen Night – planning the hen do, inviting the hens, ensuring it meets the Bride's idea of a perfect and special day with her friends (as well as ensuring there's at least one naked man or rude piece of hen paraphenalia to giggle over)
- Helping the Bride to choose the Bridesmaid dresses – remember though, it's not the Chief Bridesmaid's decision, the Bride always has the deciding vote on Bridesmaid's outfits
- Helping the Bride choose her wedding dress - I recommend buying her a glass of sparkly afterwards to celebrate the occassion
- Attending the Wedding rehearsals (usually held the day before the wedding)
- Being a shoulder to cry on for the Bride during the wedding planning.
The Chief Bridesmaid's duties on the Wedding day
The Chief Bridesmaid's duties on the wedding day are divided into two parts - those things she needs to do on the morning of the wedding day before the ceremony takes place, and those tasks she needs to do once it kicks off. Gosh, it's a lot of work for a chance to wear a pretty dress, isn't it?
Chief Bridesmaid's tasks before the wedding ceremony
On the wedding day itself, the Chief Bride slave, oh I meant, Bridesmaid, needs to be up early to start helping the Bride have a lovely - and stress-free - beginning to her big day. Her duties include:
- helping her into her dress and pinning on her veil if there's no hairdresser to do this
- liaising with any wedding suppliers who have any questions for the bride on the day
- running any general errands
- ensuring the bride has had something to eat for breakfast and lunch
- making sure all Bridesmaids are ready on time with hair and make-up sorted and dresses in place
- looking after and helping to dress the little Bridesmaids and pageboys
- ensuring there is vodka/champagne on hand for the bride to have a quick swig of making that all important journey down the aisle
- helping the Bride out of the wedding car and assisting her with any final adjustments to her dress, hair and veil before she makes her grand entry
- making sure the Bride has given you any make-up she might want access to on the day, keep this in a bag with you for quick touch ups
- hiding some tissues in an easy to access place should the Bride need them during the ceremony.
The Chief Bridesmaid's role during the Wedding ceremony
Once the wedding has started, it's showtime! Time for you to ensure the Bride looks absolutely perfect for the groom, the guests and the all important wedding photographs!
- Pulling back her veil from over her face if necessary
- Plumping out the bride's train to ensure it looks nice in any photos once she has reached the top of the aisle
- Linking arms with the Best Man as you walk back down the aisle when you leave the wedding ceremony
The Chief Bridesmaid's role at the Wedding reception
After the wedding itself, it's up to you to ensure that the Bride is having the day of her dreams! Whilst this responsibility can't lie entirely with the Chief Bridesmaid, you can absolutely help by doing the following duties:
- Ensuring the Bride looks picture perfect for the wedding photographs - powdering her face and plumping her dress where necessary
- Checking with the Bride regularly to make sure everything is OK and she's having a great time
- Making a toast to the Bride and Groom, or even making a little speech
- Hitting the dancefloor once the first dance is over, getting everyone else dancing too
- Circulating a guest book if she has one, and ensuring everyone signs it
- Decorating the bride and groom's car or honeymoon suite - you could fill it with champagne, rose petals or love hearts!
Now you know what the Chief Bridesmaid does, why not get advice on choosing your Bridesmaids?